We’ve absolutely LOVED having Derek share his thoughts on Married at First Sight: Second Chances! Haven’t you?! Well, he’s back to let us know what he took away from tonight’s reunion show! As you know, his perspective is very unique because he, too, has expressed his desire for a second chance!
If he got it, would you watch?
Well, here’s a glimpse of what it might look like!
Derek, take it away…
So, it was kind of difficult for me to write about the show this week. I watched it, then I wondered how I could talk about it without bashing David. You see, it isn’t that I like David in particular; it’s just that, I have never walked in his shoes, so I don’t want to judge him too harshly. I make jokes on Twitter during the show, I give him a hard time because that’s what we, as viewers do. We state our opinions and discuss the show, but I have never wanted it to be something where people gang up on or bully him (even if some feel he deserves it).
They say “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” Well, after watching this reunion, how about several women scorned? Yikes! David has already dealt with the consequences of his actions and that is something he will continue to do deal with in his life (he is a person like you and I at the end of the day). So, I hope he uses all of this as a learning experience and is able to grow from it. With that said, he took a risk here, and for that I give him credit.
I know the feeling of doing something out of the ordinary for a shot at love; I know how horrifying it can be. I also know how it feels to be on the receiving end of some harsh criticism and it certainly isn’t very much fun – I promise.
What I don’t know is how it would feel to be in this situation. I also don’t know what led David to make the decisions he made, so instead of talking about what David did or didn’t do, I started to wonder about what I would do. How would I handle a situation like that? How would I handle all of the emotion involved, all the personalities?
Then I thought to myself, first and foremost, I would be honest. I would be honest with the people involved, with myself and with the viewers. Then I thought, I wouldn’t take myself too seriously. I would keep in mind that being humble is just as important as being confident and I am the same guy I was before I was on Married At First Sight (besides a few more grays). I would make sure that I remembered that even though it is my second chance at love, that this is also someone else’s chance at love and make sure that it is just as special for them as it is for me. I would listen. I would want to know everything there is to know about any of the women who I thought there was a chance to have a connection with. That way, I could base my decisions on their character instead of just their appearance.
I would keep an open mind throughout the process and listen very carefully to the words of the experts and those around me because sometimes people can see things around us that we might not notice ourselves… and that’s ok! Sometimes the most important thing to know is when to listen. That’s what this is about. That’s what life is about… learning, growing, and living!
For several months now, people have been asking me if I would go on this show or if I am going to be on a season 2. Every day it happens. It happens on Twitter, it happens every time I go on Instagram Live and it even happened in person the other day at work. A co-worker who hardly ever speaks to me popped up in my office and asked, “Derek, are you gonna be on Second Chances?” I laughed because I had no idea she knew me in that way… and then I told her that I don’t know.
One thing I do know now is that if the opportunity presents itself, I’ll be glad that I was able to watch and learn from both David and Vanessa’s journeys this first season. They both taught me so much. Not many people would be able to handle a situation like this. It may seem easy on the outside, but they both deserve credit for not only making it through this but for being brave enough to open their hearts again and do it all in front of the world to see. On top of that, doing it first is always the scariest!
Vanessa, I did not see you when you were on Married at First Sight, but you won me over on the very first episode here. You were fun, smart, positive, and you almost made this all look easy! If I was able to get a second chance, I hope I would handle it half as well as you did!
David, before my season of Married at First Sight aired, you reached out to me. You were friendly and offered me some advice as someone who had been through the process. One thing you told me sticks out now and I can’t help but think about it as I see your current situation. You told me “whatever you do, never read the comments.” Well, I read them anyway but when they were bad, I remembered what you said and wished I hadn’t.
I know we haven’t talked much since then but I want to remind you of that advice today, if you happen to read this. I’m not sure if I will get a second chance like you did, but if I do, I can say that you taught me a lot too. In your case, it was more of “what NOT to do” but that counts too and if your mistakes can help show someone a better way, then it wasn’t in vain, whether that be me or anyone else who will watch your season in the future. For that, thanks, sport!
Before I sign off, it is also important to point out that, although we tuned in for David and Vanessa, there would have been no show if it wasn’t for the 200 brave men and women who showed up in hopes of winning one of them over. Some didn’t last as long as others but they all made an impact.
Ike, Chris, Shannon, Myles, Isabella, Tara, Melika, Callie, and Maya, I am sorry to see that you guys didn’t find love here this time, but I have no doubt that you will when the time is right. Thank you for sharing your story with us and for being so fun to watch each week.
Andre! Congrats once again, sir! Thank you for being such a good sport on Twitter haha. I guess it was easy to laugh about my jokes knowing how it all worked out in the end. I am super happy for you and Vanessa and you proved to me and the rest of us who watched each week, that people are genuine and do this for the right reasons. You made the show a success and proved that it can work. For me, someone who is still hoping to have my own love story, that makes the thought of having the opportunity myself all the more enticing. Thank you.
Not sure what we are going to tweet about now, everyone, but hopefully Second Chances will be back sooner than later. If you want to see Second Chances get a second chance (hehe), make sure to let Lifetime and Kinetic Content know!
Thanks to those of you who have been reading my blog each week and live tweeting with me, it has been a blast. Until next time.
One thing’s for sure…we’re definitely rooting for him to find his Happily Ever After!
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