DAVID MAKES THE TOUGH DECISIONS!
From cannon balls at pool parties, angel wings and speed dates…It’s now time for double dates, so let’s get right to it… This is part eight in the chapter of my life called Second Chances, and it goes a little something like this…
This breakup with Misha is not easy, none of them are, and here’s why. It’s difficult because I know what it’s like to put it all out there in the name of love only to be rejected. It stinks. I know that, at the end of the day, my story is only going to end with one of these women. I’m just so glad that they took that chance for love and as grateful as I am that they’re part of my story, I’m just as grateful that they allowed me to be part of theirs. It’s humbling to know that you’re part of someone’s love story. I know that all these women in retrospect will look back at this time in their dating lives and will realize that this is a chapter of their life that they had to go through in order to find the person that they’re going to spend the rest of heir life with. Just like I had to go through this chapter to find the person that I’m supposed to be and spend the rest my life with. I’ll miss Misha, and truly wish her nothing but the best in the world.
This is a weird group date…I mean there was no drama… I can’t believe it! I guess painting really is good for the soul. Speaking of painting, it should come as no surprise to anyone that if I’m going to paint something, it’s going to be for the Buffalo Bills, duh! I don’t know what I’m more disappointed about, my artistic ability or Isabella continuing to bring up her ex-boyfriend. I thought we put this to bed, but it’s coming up again and for the first time, I’m really uncertain and have real reservations about my relationship with Isabella. Yeah, there was the Spain thing and not knowing if our timelines matched up, but we were able to talk through it and come out on the other side. That’s not happening here. I want to find someone who is here forever, who is focused on forever, not focused on the past. How can we move forward if Isabella is continuously looking back behind her? I’m willing to do anything to help Isabella move past this, but the one thing she needs, is the one thing I can’t offer her. Time. There are only three breakups left in this entire process, there isn’t a lot of time left.
Pastor Calvin Visit
Pastor Calvin is the man! He has truly taken the time to get to know me and how I tick. I’m so lucky to have him in my corner. It’s funny, I watch these episodes with my friends and family and anytime Pastor Calvin comes on they say, “Yup he’s right, you should listen to him, Nort.” Trust me, I am listening to him now… I really do need to “Manage the like.” This is my experience, this is my story and I know I have some very tough decisions to come, but this leads to somewhere awesome. I have to remember that and not just have faith in it, but have fun with it. I may have forgotten that during the course of this process by getting myself way too caught up in the drama. “Manage the like”…but first, I have to manage these double dates.
Let the record state, I really did try to slide on the ice, I did not fall. Okay!? Okay. Aright, let’s move on… these double dates are huge! Katy and Ryan, whom you all know from speed dating, are back to help me navigate the Final 4. They are ambassadors in a lot of ways to the rest of the friend group. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues we give each other; we can communicate with one another without ever saying a word…. I know I have said it before, but Salem brings such a positive energy to the table and I think anyone who ever meets her can pick up on that. It’s just a matter of how serious are we? This stage right here… it’s all about how our lives install and mesh together. I get that you can’t put a timeline on a relationship, sometimes what matters is how well we’re getting along, and we are getting along great right now. But I am in this to find a wife, and at the end of the week, I have a huge decision to make. I want to propose at the end of this. In order to propose, I have to get permission from the parents. How can I do that if her parents don’t know me and I don’t know them? I also think we’d have so much in common, and her parents would like me considering that I, too, have had an arranged marriage. But maybe I am thinking too much about it. Salem has stayed out of the drama and our positive attitudes do complement each other, which is something Pastor Calvin says is so important in a relationship. I told you that none of these decisions are easy.
As good as that Salem date was, that’s how awkward this Isabella date is. Remember how I talked about the non-verbal communication that I have with my friends? Go back and watch this episode. Look at the side eye we are giving each other. I know that I’m feeling very uncomfortable being measured against her ex-boyfriend over and over and over. I know my friends are feeling very uncomfortable watching me get measured against her ex-boyfriend. This is not anything that I’ve ever had happen before, and I am embarrassed for Isabella because I know this isn’t going to play well with my friends. I’m also upset because Isabella is someone that you all have seen me consistently put at the top of my list. I was so excited for Ryan and Katy to get to meet her and hang out with her, and all she could talk about is her ex-boyfriend. I know after the date what Katy and Ryan are going to say, but I ask anyway…they don’t endorse this relationship, and that means a lot.
It’s difficult to ignore that there is a sense of fate when it comes to Tara and I. We came into this with a friendship already, so we didn’t have to build that. We have been able to focus on the romantic relationship right out of the gate and the level that we’ve been able to progress romantically has been unlike any of my other relationships. Each week, it’s getting stronger and stronger. My friends already know Tara, so that makes things easier, but they’ve never seen us together. Just because we are friends doesn’t mean that we are right for one another, but I think Katy and Ryan see on this date that we are right for each other– that this could work between us and that’s really encouraging. All I know is after all of these dates, decisions get seemingly more and more impossible to make.
What Melika mentions about the other women with Katy and Ryan is true. When it’s just Melika and I, we are focused on each other’s relationship. We are not focused on anything else. I don’t know if you guys picked up on it, but there’s definitely a different side to Melika that we see when it’s just her and I, as opposed to the group settings. I know her and I are the Anti-American sweethearts, but you guys, it’s different with her. What I’m talking about is how she challenges me. I want to be certain that this process ends with the right person. I don’t want to end up with someone and think they’re the right person for me because during this whole process they tell me I’m so perfect, and then two months after I propose, we realize that there’s a lot of flaws with us. I know I am not perfect, believe me. That is why I like how Melika calls out our flaws, so we can see if we can fix them now as opposed to later…Katy and Ryan liked her and when you really look at our relationship from day 1 to now, we have come a long way.
I don’t watch the previews, because I like to be surprised. I promised Zach that I wouldn’t pick against him anymore until the finals. So Myles, I am going to say you’re on the chopping block. I hate to say it, really. If I am wrong, I promise I wont pick against you next week. Speaking of next week…
Started with a 100 now we are here. The Top 3…and there’s a major reveal on how the top two are decided, so trust me, you won’t want to miss it. Talk to you then, I am sure there will be a lot to discuss.
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